You Are the Controller, the Player, and the Observer
Most people assume they’re only operating in one role in their life.
The role of the player.
The one living it.
The one feeling it.
The one reacting to what happens.
But what most people don’t realize is this:
You’re actually playing three different roles all at once.
The player.
The controller.
And the observer.
And freedom comes from remembering you can move between all three.
The Player
(The Human Experience)
This is the role most people identify with.
The player represents the human experience.
This is the part of you that:
Feels emotions
Moves through seasons
Experiences ups and downs
Gets disappointed
Celebrates wins
Experiences grief, joy, confusion, excitement
The player is the visible part of your life.
It’s the tip of the iceberg.
It’s the version of you navigating relationships, business, career, friendships, family — all of it.
And this role is important.
You are meant to feel.
You are meant to experience.
You are meant to live.
The problem is not being the player.
The problem is believing that’s all you are.
The Controller
(Beliefs, Assumptions, Identity)
The second role is the controller.
And this is the role most people are not consciously aware of.
The controller operates quietly in the background.
It’s where your:
Beliefs live
Assumptions run
Self-concept forms
Identity solidifies
The controller is the unseen layer shaping your reality.
It determines what feels possible.
What feels safe.
What feels normal.
It influences how you interpret situations.
How you respond.
What you expect.
What you tolerate.
And most of the time, it’s running automatically.
When you say:
“This always happens to me.”
“Nothing ever works out.”
“I’m just not that kind of person.”
That’s the controller speaking.
This role is powerful because it quietly organizes your experience around what you believe is true.
The Observer
(Awareness Without Judgment)
The final role is the observer.
And this one changes everything.
The observer is awareness.
It’s the part of you that can step back and notice what’s happening — without immediately attaching meaning to it.
The observer can see:
The player feeling overwhelmed
The controller running old beliefs
The patterns repeating
And instead of spiraling, the observer says:
“Interesting.”
The observer doesn’t deny emotion.
It doesn’t suppress feeling.
It simply notices.
And that noticing creates space.
Space is what stops spiraling.
Space is what creates clarity.
Space is what allows you to respond instead of react.
The observer is how you detach without becoming numb.
The Integration (This Is the Key)
The key is not choosing one role over the others.
It’s remembering you can move between them.
Sometimes you need to:
Let the player feel fully
Adjust the controller’s beliefs
Step into the observer for perspective
Flexibility is power.
If you stay only in the player, life feels chaotic and reactive.
If you stay only in the controller, you become rigid and overly focused on “fixing” yourself.
If you stay only in the observer, you disconnect from your humanity.
But when you move between all three?
That’s alignment.
How This Ties to Manifestation
Manifestation isn’t about pretending you’re not human.
It’s not about forcing positivity.
It’s about understanding how these three roles work together.
The controller shapes your internal reality through beliefs and identity.
The player lives the human experience of it.
The observer creates awareness and allows you to shift when needed.
Manifestation becomes less about controlling outcomes and more about aligning roles.
You align the controller.
You allow the player to live.
You access the observer to detach.
That’s where freedom lives.
Not in controlling life.
But in remembering you are more than one layer of it.
Final Reflection
Most people think they are just the character inside the story.
But you are also the one shaping the narrative.
And you are the one watching it unfold.
You are the controller.
You are the player.
And you are the observer.
And remembering that changes everything. 🤍
